I know I’ve mentioned points from this book on this blog before, but I wanted to dive more deeply into the content. I am totally bonkers in love with “Why People Fail,” it was such an interesting read, super thought provoking. I’m not typically into rah-rah self-help bullsh!t, however these tips were totally in earnest, and the book makes no promise that you’re going to be a gajillionaire or any of that Tony Robbins-type nonsense. WPF just clarifies some basic steps you can take in your everyday life to make room for more joy and more “success,” however you choose to define it. I went through each chapter with great intensity and focus and really thought about the questions Reynolds poses in each.
Here’s an overview (using my language, YMMV…):
- Failure to define goals (from short-term daily to lifelong dream)
- Destructive thinking – going into every day feeling negative and not psyching yourself up and being thankful for the good things that you have going
- Low productivity – wrestling your to-do list to the ground and making it your bitch
- Having a fixed mindset – failure to participate, giving up before you’ve even started
- Weak energy – crappy eating, crappy sleeping, lazy fatassitude (guilty!)
- Not asking the right quality questions – what would you do if you couldn’t fail?
- Poor presentation skills – don’t be afraid to stand up in front of a crowd (and no, imagining your audience is naked doesn’t work unless you want to gross yourself out)
- Mistaking IQ for EQ – smart people are smart but sometimes they don’t know how to deal with people….learn how to deal with people
- Poor Self Image – waaaaah!
- Not enough free time to think – you should set aside 20 minutes a day to just think – no working, no iTems, no phone calls, etc
- Institute Daily Rituals – (see my “chain” productivity post from earlier in the week)
- Stress – I haz it
- Relationships – you need an “inner circle” of trusted people who you can run ideas by, get feedback from, and drink with
- Lack of Persistence – Meh.
- Obsession with Money – this should be a bonus, not your primary focus (hard to do when student loans are on your ass)
- Not focusing on your strengths – figure out what your strengths are first (the Clifton Strengths Finder is a great tool, I’ll address it in a future post), and then center your life around these strengths.
Worth a think, no?
Mostly I just wanted to write this post so I could scour the failblog for awesome fail imagery…